I hate giving advice. It’s one of the ironies of being a writer and coach.
Giving advice feels assumptive. As if I know something you don’t and I’m holding up a sign up to tell you. Gross.
That’s where my mind goes in the lower moments of writing and coaching, and is typically the thing that keeps me away from it when I take breaks. I feel smaller in the world as I retreat from it.
In the better moments of writing and coaching, my mind feels like I’m simply giving away a useful idea that has helped in my own life, and it’s my job to continue passing that gift along. I don’t own it.
People don’t learn through advice anyway.
They learn when they poke, prod, and test an idea in their own life. They try it on for size, and if it doesn’t fit, it goes back to the rack. Growth in any area doesn’t come from gathering more advice. It comes from persistent curiosity and a willingness to exert effort in new ways. Keep what works. Discard what doesn’t.
Less advice. More useful ideas.
But the poking and prodding is up to you.
If you find value in the things I publish here, it’d mean the world if you’d share it with someone else. It’s the only way this space and community continues to grow.
✌️ and ❤️,
Adam Griffin